How Do I Know if I Really Love Myself?

1.  Do I exercise 4-5 times a week?

2.  Do I eat regularly--mostly fresh fruits, vegetables, whole grains?

3.  Do I get by on fast food, junk food, sugar/fatfood, ie. candybar

     or doughnut?

4.  Do I get to bed so I can wake up naturally feeling rested?

5.  Do I give in to others' wishes or demands and then hate myself?

6.  Do I use alcohol, cigarettes, caffeine, or other drugs?

7.  Do I find myself impatient or irritable with the needs and

     requests of others?

8.  Do I have a clear sense of my assets and deficits?

9.  Do I have a sense of fulfillment or accomplishment on most days

10. Do  I often feel tired or have a sense of heaviness?

11. Do I like what I see in the mirror most of the time?

12. Do I bite my nails, pick at my nails, or have other nervous habits?

13. Do I take time to play at least 2 times a week?

14. Do I talk openly about vulnerable feelings to anyone?

15. Do I feel completely safe with at least one other person?

16. Do I say "no" to requests when I know I am overloaded?

17. Do I find it difficult to express love (as distinguished from sex)?

18. Do I have 2-4 close friends that I can totally relax with and be

      myself?

19. Do I spend time every day doing something I really enjoy?

20. Do I have negative self-talk or get defensive when something

      goes wrong?

21. Do I have to be right, or can I see when I'm wrong and say I'm

      sorry?

22. Do I get angry when things don't go my way?      

23. Do I have trouble setting and holding boundaries?

      (answers: 1,2,4,8,9,11,13,14,15,16,18,19,21 are yes for self-love;

       others are no)   from The Worst Evil--Losing Yourself (bookstore)